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5 Positive Things About Being A Forty Something Mom


So, here's the deal I was a mom at the age of 21, 23 and 26 that makes a total of three babies before the age of thirty. So having two more at 30 and forty-something was never in the cards for me. Nonetheless, I have learned life has a way of making sure I learn new things as I got used to aging with all of my children. This is a story about a woman (me) finding the positive about being a 40 something mom, the good the bad, sad and the overcoming of it all.

 So, here's the deal I became a mom at the age of 21, 23 and 26 that makes a total of three babies before the age of thirty. So having two more at 30 and forty-something was never in the cards for me. Nonetheless, I have learned life has a way of making sure I learn new things as I got used to aging with all of my children. This is a story about a woman (me) finding the positive about being a 40 something mom, the good the bad, sad and the balancing of it all. 



Yes, you read that right I am aging with my two youngest girls. And I can not express all the lessons I am learning at this moment in time. Moriah is 6 and Chloe is 15 big gap right? So, somewhere in between the younger girls, I am finding myself back at the point of finding balance and being an older mom. 

Oh and yes it is a big difference in being a young mom vs. an older mom. When I was younger, I bopped around with my three other girls, tossed them in daycare while I worked and tried to attend school. Life was hard, and I can see how I contributed to a lot of the struggles that occurred in my younger days.
 Over time I met my husband Rico he had no children. Oh yes, I was scared out of my ditzy mind. When we met, we did a lot of traveling with the smaller girls, and he treated all of us like queens. I knew he was going to want at least one biological child of his own. By the time I turned 30 I was having another baby. Oh boy, the joy. But then another baby at 40. I thought I knew it all until the day I had another baby at forty-something.

I do not know for the life of me how I made it with small ones in my twenties. But what I can say is wisdom and learning new things have taught me to be a better mother now than I was then. I wasn't a bad mom more of a careless one because I didn't know nothing about being a mom. So we all grew up together. I wouldn't change nothing about my life because that would mean I wouldn't have had the daughters that I love so dearly at this moment in life.

 I do not know for the life of me how I made it with small ones in my twenties. But what I can say is wisdom and learning new things have taught me to be a better mother now than I was then.

I wasn't a bad mom but more of a careless one because I didn't know nothing about being a mom. So we all grew up together. When my babies cried, I cried. I laugh now, but it wasn't funny at the time.

Ultimately, I wouldn't change anything about my life because that would mean I wouldn't have wanted my daughters. And that is and never will be the case.
What I am saying is being an older mom has taught me the meaning of life, through endurance and learning new things every day. The smiles that I share come from triumph and real-life struggles. 
It took me a long time to find my little place of joy, and maybe it came through the cycle of being an older mother. So here are  5 positivities to being a forty-something mom.


I've grown up: Yes, it is true it has taken me over two decades to realize some things. Like I said earlier I was young with my first three babies. As I've aged, I am learning balance, how they need me to be more present in their lives. No matter how busy I am, I still have to be held accountable as the woman who had these children. I am not sure if I knew then what I know now if it would have made a difference. Because I was in a different time in my life. Fast forward to the present I am in a situation to be mom, wife and work full time. Once I realized it was not my kid's fault to be here, I started learning new things to help keep us close as a family.


  • I've grown up: Yes, it is true it has taken me over two decades to realize some things. Like I said earlier I was young with my first three babies. As I've aged, I am learning balance, how they need me to be more present in their lives. No matter how busy I am, I still have to be held accountable as the woman who had these children. I am not sure if I knew then what I know now if it would have made a difference. Because I was in a different time in my life. Fast forward to the present I am in a situation to be mom, wife and work full time. Once I realized it was not my kid's fault to be here, I started learning new things to help keep us close as a family. 



  • They Keep Me, Young: This may sound a little cliche, but I actually feel excited and vibrant when I am with my little ones. I spend more time now doing things with them that I didn't have when I was in my twenties. Over the last few years, I have seen more parks and jump houses than anyone can imagine. Honestly, I absolutely love it, and I can't wait to do more. 


  • I Have More Time: Although I work full time in and out of my home. I fix my schedule to work around my kids. Being in the hair industry, it's a little easier to work clients around any school or activities my children may have. It's not always easy at all. I've missed a few things here and there. But when I was younger, I could barely make a child's graduation due to me having to work and try to attend school myself. Now that is the one thing I would change, and that is time. I needed more time when I was a semi teen parent. Well, that and a little know how to raise kids when I was still a kid. But, we made it by the grace of God...I made it through. 
  • Excellent Benefits To Having Older Children: I have three grown daughters of which two still live at home. When I had the two small ones, I had no problem with them jumping in and helping take care of them. Most of the time people think Moriah and Chloe are my daughter's children. Because they are so protective and they have been there every step of the way. My oldest daughter Carey keeps up with all the family births and photos. Kamoriae is the smart one in the house she helps with homework and learning new stuff. Everything I didn't have when I was younger I really have now that I am much older.
  •  More Wisdom: I am not making any excuses for not knowing about babies, responsibility and being young. But I can surely tell anyone as I've gotten older I am learning more and more every day the importance of having wisdom when it comes to having children. I am much wiser now, and that is why I believe life is getting more comfortable for me when it comes to embracing the changes that occurred when I had Moriah and Chloe at forty-something.
  • A Second Chance: Life has a way of teaching all of us a few things. There are times I missed the mark, but I am sure glad I have had a second chance to start some things over in my life. 
In conclusion: Being a forty-something mom has made me better understand what it is to be a mom. I know I did the best I could as a youngster, but I am doing better as an older mom. In respect to all the young moms out there making it happen every day. I salute you but as you grow older, wiser and gain wisdom. You will better enjoy the beauty and true essence of having each child. I will talk about my older daughters at a later time, just know we are closer now than ever and we pull together as a family. Although they have grown up with me, I've finally found my balance in being a mother period. That is my story, and I am sticking to it with family, food, fun and no regrets.


 A little extra something: I plan my dates with my daughters. Nothing big or even fancy sometimes we go out grab a box of donuts, laugh and talk. Honestly, after work, I am quite tired, so it is essential that I find quick and quiet places to spend at least 30 minutes alone with the smaller girls. It is therapeutic for them as well as for me.

What do you do for fun with your children big or small?

Until Next Time See Ya in A Bit!

xo Tangie

11 comments

  1. I absolutely loved this !!!I know for sure you are wonderful woman and Mother ☺

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  2. We love our mom "in my Moriah voice"😘!

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    2. awww thank you Carey...enjoy the weekend:)

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  3. Wow five daughters. I'm a older mom too. My son is 20 and my daughter is 9. I had my son at 21 and my daughter at 33. My daughter definitely keeps me young and vibrant.

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    1. Wow girl we both almost made it. But its a blessing to have the younger ones. Hey Keisha girl have a blessed week by any means and that is real talk.
      xoxo tangie

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  4. You have a blessed and wonderful week too. I truly enjoy reading your blog. You are truly an inspiration. I may start back journaling and blogging because of you. I want to thank you for being yourself and transparent. Thanks a bunch.

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    1. Hey Keisha, thank you . My schedule has been hectic these last few days. Glad to hear that. Also,I salute you start your journal and blog. But, once you start do not stop or give up. :) Good luck lady and always propel forward by any means necessary.

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  5. I love reading your posts! You are an excellent mother .. you rolled with the punches.. look at you now! Thanks for the inspiration and encouragement to be great Mother’s to our children!

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    1. Thank you for being here, Thank you:)
      xo tangie

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