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He Is Younger And Heck, Yeah It Is Ok


Is he your son, brother, cousin or friend? I am asked a few dumb questions like that all the time. And to be honest, I am A-ok with it. This is a story about a younger man and an older woman who fell in love. And this is how we make it work.

Is he your son, brother, cousin or friend? I am asked a few dumb questions like that all the time. And to be honest, I am A-ok with it. This is a story about a younger man and an older woman who fell in love. And this is how we make it work.
The man that is kissing all over my neck is my bae/husband, Rico. We met in college, I was working in the front office at Bossier Community College, and he was a student who needed help with his schedule. (Oh Lucky Me)
I was taking classes also in another building, and to this day I believe he was watching my every move.  Every day I went the same way because I knew he was going to be around the corner somewhere lurking and smiling.
One day he ran out to my car and said I am not letting you get away from me today.

All I remember saying is,"boy what do you want with me? I got kids.

His response: So I got a good job.

Me: Ok

And that was the beginning of my new life.

 I was 29, and he was 21 years old. It doesn't seem as bad as it did at the time.  

Image: Woman and Man at Cafe:Before meeting my now husband, back in the day, I didn't think no one would take me serious with having three kids already.  My life wasn't precisely fit to be the princess of England. So, I prepared myself to be single until my girls became grown. Blog by Bits and Babbles
Before meeting my now husband, back in the day, I didn't think no one would take me serious with having three kids already.  My life wasn't precisely fit to be the princess of England. So, I prepared myself to be single until my girls became grown.

Side Note: I know now I was fit for a good life and my past choices don't depict if I was worthy of being a wife or even having a good man friend.

It was hard dating at first, and I was stubborn as a horse. But, I have never admitted this until now. I was ready for a little happiness and sunshine to come into my life.
Life is crazy like that sometimes.

We started dating, and I spent the next two months trying to keep our relationship a secret. Yes, it is true I did not want a soul knowing he was my little boyfriend.

 For months I introduced him as my guy friend. He would be flaming red because Rico wanted me to address him as my man. 
It was hard because my friends did not have it at all and they didn't let one day go by without reminding me I was wrong for dating a younger man. So, guess what we eloped and I was so happy and overjoyed. I was Megan Markle who married the Prince. 


After 2 children and 16 years together I am finally able to say I am the older woman and proud to be. 

I am asked a lot about how we do it and was I afraid to marry. The answer is Yes and Hell Yes. I prayed to meet someone who would love me and all the bags I was bringing into the relationship. 

I got what I asked for, but I never prayed about age. Although my husband was of legal age, it took some time to adjust to the questions and stares back in the day.
When I look at my life now, I wouldn't have it any other way. To be straightforward, I didn't have much to bring to the table first. But, he did, good job, benefits and his own money. So I took what I had and put it with his to make our little family work.
When I look at my life now, I wouldn't have it any other way. To be straightforward, I didn't have much to bring to the table first. But, he did, good job, benefits and his own money. So I took what I had and put it with his to make our little family work. 
We did not date for years, we got married secretly. Let me pause right here for a praise break. I can never express my true happiness until I met my younger now man. I thought my life was a mess, but he showed me otherwise, and his love toward me has not changed a bit. My smile is real, and I can share this with you guys in truth and honesty.

How We Did it!
We did not date for years, we got married secretly. Let me pause right here for a praise break. I can never express my true happiness until I met my younger now man. I thought my life was a mess, but he showed me otherwise, and his love toward me has not changed a bit. My smile is real, and I can share this with you guys in truth and honesty.

Life is not perfect, so ultimately the layout will be different for everyone.

  • Time: No matter what is going on we take one day for one another. 
  • Kids: He knew I had three girls before our relationship and I knew he had none. So, we discussed up front to have no more than three babies together. Let's just say after the second one (Moriah) was born I was over it. 
  • Responsibilities: That has never been a battle because from day one Rico came into my life helping and pulling mad weight. I was able to go to beauty school, Click Here For That Story
  • Family: We keep family and date nights separate, but we always work it in. 
  • God First: Our foundation is built on the love we have for Jesus. I know that is why I have a good bond with my husband. 
  • In Health: You know we all think we will be with someone through it all. The test comes when sickness or health issues arise. Trust I have had my share, and my husband has been there rubbing my legs making sure I eat right. There are times in my sleep I've heard Rico whisper in my ear at night,"I am never going to leave you.' My heart still melts.
  • Were not goals: Most people strive to be relationship goals. We make it a point to build real-life love goals. Which are more important than looking good for other people 
  • Our life is basic, and we love it that way. We are not perfect, but we strive for perfection. Marriage takes work no matter who's the youngest or the oldest. 
If I could change one thing about my life, I would not do it. Where I am now is where I am supposed to be, and love sees only what it wants too.
In conclusion: I am a woman who is in the middle of life and things that made me cringe back in the day doesn't bother me anymore. Life is about living and enjoying the moments. I am older now, and he is still younger, but it is OK with me. 

Would you marry a younger man or woman?

Until Next Time See Ya In A Bit!

P.S. Also if you are a woman of a certain age, never give up on finding love.

4 comments

  1. This story is so inspiring and will help a lot of people going through the same situation! Being mature and ready for what life throws at you is the Key of it all! By following God, he will lead you into His promise

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    1. Good morning and Thank You. I agree God will lead and I love that:)
      xo Tangie

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  2. I love a good love story and the way you guys didn't let age come between you but what you both bring to the table is what's important and how he treats your daughters.

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    1. Good morning Sanniyah thank you.I am so thankful to God for where I am in my life at this moment in time. Thank you and and I am sending love to you from us in Texas:)
      xo tangie

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