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Being Forty-Something And Accepting The Process Of Aging

Image: Tangie Bell shopping in thrift store. If I only knew I was going to need more guidance and understanding as I age, I would've paid more attention to every year I let slip by after 20-something. #midlifenotes
Midlife Notes

If I only knew I was going to need more guidance and understanding as I age, I would've paid more attention to every year I let slip by after 20-something.
Over the last few years, I've been thinking about what  I am want to do in my late 40's and beyond. Why haven't I talked about my feelings before and why am I worried about something that has to happen naturally in life anyway?  


Such as wrinkles, weight gain or loss, life losses, children moving out or staying home until married. :) 
And so many other things that happen as we age.

Seriously is there something to be worried about? 

Image: Tall lamp legs at a thrift store in Dallas Texas:I am speaking about those simple living in the moments of aging. You know being happy about the process by letting go and really enjoying life. Finding a purpose and passion for the second half of living life.

Also,  I am not talking about retirement plans or, money because those are real-life things that have to be taking care of. 

I am speaking about those simple living in the moments of aging. You know being happy about the process by letting go and really enjoying life. Finding a purpose and passion for the second half of living life. 
Most people including myself never talk about what we really want to do in life past the age of 40. To be honest talking about going to a nursing home is not the conversation I want to have over coffee with friends. 
Image: Mannequin with hand bag across shoulder. seen first on Bits and Babbles Blog
When I turned forty many years ago, I noticed my body and other things around me were changing. Such as the way I think, dress, and saw my body as a woman who was aging and I could see it happening slowly but surely. If I could be honest in this post, I really thought I was going to be young in looks and health forever. That was the crazy and dumb side of my mind talking as a youth so please don't judge.
I am at that point in my life where I want to enjoy the slow process of living. I now realize I have a big part to play in my life when it comes to life and aging well. In other words, things are going to happen, and we must plan accordingly. But when the birds are singing, and the sun is shining we must learn to live the parts of life at that moment.
Image: Tangie Bell Holding Bag: Image Woman holding bag at thrift store. Seen First on Bits and Babbles Blog

I am here to admit. Yes, aging is scary, but it is not over until it is over. I am not a Dr at all but being 40, 50, 60, 70 80 and beyond does not mean its time to crawl up in a hole and wait to die. I spend a lot of time working, being a mom, wife, etc.
Ultimately, aging with a purpose is more than finding a hobby or a new friend to go and play bingo with. To me, it's about discovering who I am and adjusting to that aging phase in my life.

When I was younger, I did what young people do even if it was right or wrong.
Now that I am older there is another part of life that I have to learn. So, I now realize I will never stop learning and adjusting to new things as I age. The realization is the process is much different, and I am ok with that.


Image: Two Vintage Telephones : When I look in the mirror, I do see a different woman. One who has a few wrinkles and a little belly fat. But I can fix that. Because with age will come change and I am ok with that also. I live in the real world, not the one that is on the interweb. The one where women are real and deal with real life issues.
When I look in the mirror, I do see a different woman. One who has a few wrinkles and a little belly fat. But I can fix that. Because with age will come change and I am ok with that also. I live in the real world, not the one that is on the interweb. The one where women are real and deal with real life issues. 


A Few Tidbits

Take Life Slow And Easy: It's ok to ease back from taking on to many tasks. 

Let Go: It's ok to let go of things that are weighing you down.

Let Children Be Grown: Its ok to allow your children to make their own mistakes. Do not carry the burden of raising kids than being in their business as adults. Help when necessary or when asked.

Focus On New Adventures: Find something you love to do outside of being at work, home or at church events.  Do something fun/relaxing and do it often.

Spend Time on personal self-care: beauty, skin, and health

Be less judgemental: So what you do not look 20 and you see a few wrinkles. It's ok to get some good cream for the face and join a gym. You can fix that. But if you do want to, it's ok :)


Last but not least, being forty-something is new to me but I am finding my place, and I hope anyone who reads today's blog post can find a new purpose in accepting the process of aging. After all of these years, I finally got what it means to rest and just roll with life. 

When things happen in life must deal with it and when things are not happening ...I Must Enjoy It!

Now that's my bits on being forty-something and accepting the process of aging.



Leave me comments?


Until Next Time See Ya In A Bit!

xo Tangie




7 comments

  1. I know I’m too young to understand the entire concept of getting older because I’m only 28 BUT I can feel a big shift in my life and I know things that make me feel better about getting older are accepting where I’m at and where I want to be! In 2019 I am going to embrace all of the changes and live my happiest yet simple life...

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    1. Yes to embracing a simple life:)
      Thanks
      xo tangie

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    2. Yes to embracing a simple life:)
      Thanks
      xo tangie

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  2. I am loving this midlife note series! One thing I am going to be doing for myself is getting back into my self care! I haven't been using the best products for my face and body and in return I have been feeling dry and unhappy with the way my skin feels! I didn't realize that making sure I do that one small thing like investing in my beauty that will make me feel better about life! You always say it's the little things in life that matters most and I totally agree! Let's age gracefully this year!

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    1. Good morning and thank you for this beautiful comment.
      xo tangie

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  3. I love how fearless you are when opening up about aging! It is something that we all want to avoid but know that it has to happen! You have definitely made the conversation a bit easier to have with others! Awesome post

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    1. Thank you ..I am facing aging head on:)
      have a great day!

      xo tangie

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