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My Real Midlife: How I Fight The Age Dilemma

Image: (Woman) Tangie Bell her story about midlife and she plans to break the age dilemma
My Real Midlife: How I Fight The Age Dilemma 
Today as I look in the mirror, I can clearly see I am not the same person as I was when I was in my twenties.

Yep, the small waist and skinny legs are long gone. 
Now, I can clearly see a woman who has aged with time and with a few forehead wrinkles to match the body fat at being forty-something. 

But soooooooooooooooooooooooo freaking what, who cares?
 I know I do not because I am the same woman today as I was two decades ago. Except I am carrying a lighter heart and dressing with all types of attitude. 

So, this morning, I am going to give you my unpopular thoughts straight forward without any chasers. 
Let's be honest being in Midlife sucks, and no one wants to admit it at all. 
But, hey, I figured out one rule: I can look at life and get left behind, or I can grab life by the horn and make my own path to trollop.

Image: Woman posing on wall in her blue boots. The author Tangie Bell is sharing her midlife age dilemma as way to inspire others. Seen first on Bits and Babbles Blog
 As I age, I had to realize no one was going to hold my hand, nor tell me everything about the aging process. I am in the second part of my life somewhere in the middle of knowing a few things and not knowing a darn thing. 

Most people I know are focusing on the midlife crisis but not me, I want to learn how to live my best life and enjoy the small moments while I can. 
I want to learn more about the new way of the internet, how to run, skip jump, and the proper way to do yoga. 
I want to know about all those things that give me a reason not to give up as I get closer to being 50 years old. 

It is an old dilemma to count someone out because they are over a certain age. And I want no parts of a culture that has forgotten about mama, grandma, auntie, and the big sister who worked so hard in life just to become the forgotten ones because of age.
Image: Woman leaning on wall and sharing her story about midlife to motivate others. Tangie Bell is wearing a gold ring, arm bracelets, blue purse with tassels, and a blue and white stripe dress. Seen first on Bits and Babbles blog

I am not a professor or anything of the sort, so this is only my opinion. If you are a person of a certain age, it is not too late to change the dynamics of how people around us see age. 

I have made a few critical decisions in my life, and I am going to share them with you guys right now.

How to fight the age dilemma:

  • I have gotten over the fact I am over 40. I may have missed out on a lot in my life. But, so what I can start over no matter how old I become. Join Me!
  • Take care of my outer body. Get up and dress (me) to my best ability. Looking undressed and unprepared for the world is not an option.
  • Take care of my inner body. I am not the one to take health advice from, but I have been over the last year, adding fresh fruits and more vegetables to my way of eating. 
  • Being responsible for taking my iron and vitamins daily.
  •  Take a stance to learn something new on the internet. No one wants to work with someone who can't operate a simple email post. I want to stay in the know on how to work my social media Instagram, Pinterest, and so forth. Not knowing simple life tech stuff is what's getting midlifers left behind. 
  • Do something with my own visions and goals. Getting old is not a dilemma and should not ever stop anyone from pursuing their dreams. #catchtahatandrun
  • Show up to the job early. Allow people to see you are hungry for a new promotion. It's time to let the world see a midlife person who can work just as hard as a 20 something person. 

Last but not least, I am learning a few new things about life in the middle. Aging is not a death sentence, so it's not a dilemma for me anymore. 

In fact, it is just the beginning of learning new things and trying to live the best life possible. 

P.S, If you are in the middle of life, start creating the chapters you want to live and learn from. 

If you are going through a crisis, get all the help needed from a Dr. family and/or friends. But, if not buckle up and get in the driver's seat of your car and speed off into a life of bliss.

Live life as if it's golden and not a crisis because it's not scary at all. 

That's my story and I sticking to it.

How do you handle the age dilemma?

Until Next Time See Ya In A Bit!

xo Tangie

I know someone will ask me: My outfit deets are as follows:

Dress: Old Navy
Earrings: Target
Bracelets and Ring: DIY
Boots: Francesca's
Blue Purse: Thrifted Boutique
Shades: She-In Online


  1. Geeeshhh you are a Fearless Woman indeed! And I personally, admire your understanding of LIFE and how it is not perfect and how we are suppose to move with the times as a WOMAN! Making the best of it of course.

    1. Hello and thank you for commenting! NO I do not have it all together but I am trying to work on me everyday. :)
      xo Tangie

  2. Well, Im still pretty young so I dont have an age dilmena but I surely do have a career one at the moment! I normally handle this by telling myself to calm down and things will happen with time! Can't rush life!

    1. WOW Carey you are doing well, I enjoyed your post on becoming a teacher. Keep going we all support YOUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU!
      xo Tangie

  3. You age beautifully and without knowing you, I can tell your inner soul is powerful with wisdom and has the full potential to teach others about self love💕 truly beautiful

  4. Good afternoon and thank you so much. See Ya in the next post!
    xo Tangie


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