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Frantic: Midlife Struggles!

Midlife Notes:  Tangie Bell kicking up her feet as she shares her frantic midlife struggles
Small bits of life straight from my midlife notes.
Sweet buttermilk cornbread, I thought life was hard in the beginning as a youngster. But, now I am second-guessing everything I thought I knew in the middle.

Now, I guess I can add some frantic notes to my midlife-ish struggles as of today.
 Oh, Darling, if you think being in the middle of life, is all about a crisis or having hot flashes, you are sadly wrong. 

I never had the flashes or the crisis as of yet, and, honestly, I do not know if they will ever come. As a woman of a certain age, I am learning we all will deal with things at different times and stages of life, even if we are the same age.

With so much going on in the world today, I want to take more time out when it comes to dealing with the small things in my own little world. No, seriously, this conversation is about to get real.

I saw a post online that read: Happiness will come into your life. When you start looking for the things that are centered around a living a happy, fulfilled lifestyle. (author unknown)

WOW! That statement hit me right in the face like a boomer rang toss by a child in central park. 
So, many times, I was worried or frantic about life that I didn't stop long enough to enjoy the little things.

One thing I am learning about being in the middle of life is it's ok to be ok!
I know that may sound cliche, but it is a truth I am trying every day to embrace.

One thing I am also learning is I never had to be in midlife to be frantic about stuff around me. Ya'll, I was a hot mess even when I was in my early 20's.
So, I had to learn everything is not a crisis but a mere readjusting to the good, the bad, and the ugly of living life.

Lately, I have been making quite a few changes that have caused me to face most of my frantic midlife struggles:

  • Being An Example: I want to be more of an example for my children when it comes to dealing with this aging process. I do not want them to be afraid of what has to happen anyways in life. 
  • Not Be Afraid: There is nothing to be scared of in midlife. It's ok breath, and start enjoying the small moments. I try not to focus on mindless behavior.
  • Weight: I am over wasting time counting and watching every piece of bread that crosses my lips. I eat what I want within reasons, and that is that.
  • Self-Shame: There is nothing worse than self-shaming yourself. That was me all the time, looking in the mirror and finding at least three things wrong with my body, hair, and toes. Thighs to big, you failed at so much in life. Yadda, Yadda, all the bull crap I've been feeding my thoughts. Has cost me to waste a lot of time
  • Time: I act as if the clock on the wall is going to stop, and I will not have enough time to go climb Mt.Everest. Honestly, if I stop watching the seconds on the wall, I will have the time to just live. #powerpoint

I guess to some, these may not struggle, but they were mine.
At the end of the day, my daughters are getting older in life, as well. And I want to be an example to them and show what aging gracefully really looks like.

And it is not about having the perfect body nor driving a blue corvette. But merely how we see ourselves as we tell our story to the next generation.
Nothing in life will ever be perfect, and once I started being honest to myself, I can tell my children the truth and not be scared.

My struggles are real to me, but I am learning to change what I can and move to back burner those things that have little or no meaning to progress in my life.

In conclusion: It is long overdue for me to face facts that I am in a different place in my life, and I must figure out how I want to continue my legacy. I am spending more time laughing at life than I am trying to figure things out. Life is too short to be frantic about living life on the daily. That is my story, and I am sticking to it.

What have you been frantic about lately?

Until next Time See Ya In A Bit!
xo Tangie


  1. Oh how I just love how honest you are your posts about life! You are truly inspiring

  2. I think youre doing an amazing job at showing us how to age gracefully! We appreciate you!! And I have been frantic about the next step in life but I know I'll make it through with yall help and money of course! Ha!


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