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The Funny In Being Forty-Something

Image: Woman: Tangie Bell Sitting On Bench and sharing her funny story about being forty-something. Seen first on Bits and Babbles Blog
The Funny In Being Forty-Something

I know this may sound a bit crazy, but as I am getting older, I am intentionally finding the funny in being forty-something.

When I was in my twenties, everything I did in life was hilarious, even when I messed up a few times. Ok, many times, but who is judging me right now. :)
Fast forward to Midlife, I was beginning to think I needed to plan for something beyond living in the moment. 
Although I know I should have future plans and I do, but I've decided not to dwell on anything past living in the right now.
I see a lot of bloggers and real-life people who want to chat medical, insurance, and all things about the end of aging.

But, on a good note, all those things are important, but after all of that is done,  I want to run jump skip and share the funny and crazy side of enjoying aging.

Honestly,  life is to short not to be living beyond life's daily seconds, minutes, and hours.
Image:Bird sitting on bench and Tangie Bell is watching as she tells her funny story of being forty-something. Seen first on Bits and Babbles blog
So, since the birds that flock in the air or sit on park benches and stare at nothing seem to be happy. I figure I might as well flock with the birds who don't have a care.
No, seriously, sometimes I have to look at life and find my own funny that will keep me sane.

The other day I was thinking about my birthday coming up in August, and I couldn't help but laugh out loud at myself.
So, I walked over to my bedroom window and said to my husband, TODAY, I am making some much-needed changes in my life.
Image: Bench at the park . Seen first on bits and babbles blog.
Starting with my weight: I am not against working out or weight loss at all. I am only going to claim and own up to my body being thick and weighing in at 180 lbs. Yikes!
It is about time I take charge of who I am and start embracing the thing I am mentally trying to change.
 You see, I can run on the treadmill and eat once a day, and I will still hold unwanted weight.
Every day, Rico(the hubs) tells me I look pretty to him. And, without fail, I will say, "Oh, but I have gained so much around my belly and thighs."
Yep, my weight had to make the funny section of this post because I am finally ok with the way I look. Now, don't get me wrong I take care of my body. I am only trying to take care of my mental status when it comes to worrying about my size at forty
It is a reality that most women, including myself, struggle with the weight issue all the time. It's funny when I was skinny I complained, now I am older and a wee-bit bigger, I am still complaining.
Honestly, I am sick of myself for wasting time and for not using my brain space for something other than weight.

One thing I started doing last year is taking two days out the week to increase more healthy foods and water detoxing on my days off.
Now I look in the mirror almost every day and tell myself: I am happy with the body I have, and I will live and treat this body well.
It works for me, and I have come to the realization I will never give up soul food and chocolate cake.
Once I came to that conclusion in my life, I've been happier, and now I can laugh at myself for beating my body up about weight. 

Image: at the park. Tangie Bell is sharing stories about being forty-something. Seen first on Bits and Babbles blog.
Tattoos: The funny thing about life is we all say what we will never do in life. Ha! I am so guilty of doing that all the time. I remember when I was much younger, I hated tattoos, and I looked crazy at anyone who had them.
I made it all the way through childhood, teen days, and most of my thirties without getting inked.  

So, by the time I turned 40 on the dot, I got one tat, and it was on from that day. Now I am tatted from the foot to the neck, and I love it. I will share more on a later post. The moral of this story is once I started to live my life, I became comfortable in my own skin and body. I love the artwork on my body, and I wouldn't change one ink spot. At the end of the day, it is not hurting no one.
Besides, my tat artist always says he has more lawyers, doctors, and blue-collar clients than people realize. 
I love being bold and stepping out of my comfort zone. Do I plan on getting more tattoos? Heck Ya!

Image: at the park. Tangie Bell sharing her funny story being forty-something. Seen first on Bits and Babbles blog
Time: Aint it funny how fast the days are moving? We are already halfway through July. It's almost time to put up our Christmas tree. According to the Hallmark channel, which is already playing Xmas movies.
Ugh, I love it though, it feels good to watch snow since its 1000 degrees past burn up in Texas at the moment.
I realize time is waiting on no one, and that is the truth; believe it or not.
Nonetheless, I want to enjoy time and do the things I want in and out of this life.

No matter what is going on, we all have to find the time to embrace life's new changes. I used to think I didn't have time to complete a task or try something different.
Until I realized it is all about finding that balance and making the time to make, it happens even if it takes till Thanksgiving for things to turn around.
 Life is short, that is why I am looking for extra minutes in my day to do the things that bring me peace, love, and joy. 

Image: Flowers at the park. Tangie Bell sharing snippets of funny things being forty-something. Seen first on Bits and Babbles Blog.
Still Learning New Things: Yes, I do giggle at the new things I am still learning in my life. The real funny is I finally realize I will never stop learning new things as long as I live. 

That is a hard pill to swallow for most baby boomers and midlifers such as myself. But it is true, and I am learning to be ok with the things I am experiencing in midlife.

Other Things I Find Funny:

Social Media Selfies: I just learned how to take a proper selfie all by myself. Yep, this social media thing is still new to me. But, I see I can use it for more than making funny faces or embarrassing my kids. Although that can be really fun lately, I chose to show very little of them when it comes to sharing them on social media. I keep the funnies between us at home. 

Besides, it is my daughters who keep me in tune with everything that is going on with my media outlets. This is a new experience for the older generation, but times are changing, and everything is moving to computers. Learning new technology has become vital to me. Yes, it is funny because I am one who said I am not going to move from the old way of doing things. Now, I can't remember how I used to do things with my I-Phone and laptop. lol")

Kids Being Home: Most people who are in the middle of life their kids may be gone away. You know living at the college campus, maybe married or may have moved out of the house already.

That's not my story, my daughters are still living with me and my husband, so I am still learning new things about my life, all while raising two college gals, one 17-year-old and a 7-year-old. I know one day they all will be gone, but as of this moment they are not, and it's weirdly funny how much I am learning from them. 

My Style: When it comes to style, I am down for whatever I like. I never thought I would become that lady who wants to wear all the colors that are in the rainbow. But, oddly, that is me, and I love it. No one talks about the weird and funny changes we will make when we turn 40 something in life. In reality, it happens: one day, I want to dress conservative, and the next, I want to look like a wild version of Cyndi Lauper. 
Who was and still is ahead of her time, even as a child I thought her style was super cool. I am not a fashion nor style expert, but I do believe both are a one-way lane. Meaning there is only one way to dress, and that is the way that makes you happy. 

I am finally laughing at my own self-style, and I love everything I wear now. At the end of the day, I am not my clothes or the things I wear, so it is ok to re-wear and mix-match if that makes me happy.
How do you feel about dressing up and style? Does it even matter?
It is so easy to focus on the negative sides of aging, but I realize somethings this year. I have a lot of things to live for, and I want to do a lot of new things while I can. So, slowing down and being complacent ain't one of them.

No matter what people say or think there is a good life still ahead of us midlifers and gosh darn it, I am going to ride the best part of it out.

In conclusion: I used to be afraid of becoming old, now I am not scared anymore. Because I've decided to live my life on my own terms and enjoy every inch of it at this moment in time. 

P.S No matter how old or young you are, please start living life with no regrets. Let today be the day you find purpose and the will to keep going by any means necessary.
Therefore, I will continue working out gently and eating healthy, all while enjoying my favorite soul-foods.  Yes, life is that simple, and I have learned I can dress in any style of clothing that makes me feel good, even if I laugh about it later.

What made you laugh TODAY?

Keep the conversation going, leave me comments below. 

Until Next Time See Ya In A Bit!

xo Tangie


  1. Glad you're finding positivity In your life💕 I could use some of that in my life

  2. The beauty in this post is amazing! Love how dedicated you are for change!


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