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I Quit College: Yet, I Am Pushing My Daughters To Do Better Than Me!

Image : Tangie Bell and daughter Kamoriae walking and touring her new university and Texas State Womens College. Seen First On Bits and babbles blog
  I Quit College: Yet, I Am Pushing My Daughters To Do Better Than Me!
Sometimes life has to be told in small bits.

WOW, this has been a whirlwind getting all my girls back and settled into school. My goodness, the shopping part of it all was the easiest and the funniest of it all. Now that I have another child in college, the struggle has jumped real. 

Getting my daughters prepared for school entry has been daunting as a  parent. If I never see another tax form or paper to sign, I will be just fine. 
This week I finally had a chance to visit and tour with my daughter Kamoriae in her first week of school. 
Looking around campus, almost made me want to go back and re-start myself. Until I realized, going to college was never for me.  And I think it is about time I share the truth with my girls. 

 Image: Tangie Bell and daughter taking a college tour. Seen first on Bits and babbles blog
 Back in the day, it was a lot easier to jump into college and take courses even if you didn't know what you really wanted to do. Of course, things have changed since I was trying to frolic on a school campus with no plans or real worries. To be honest, I only joined college because I wanted to make a better life for my three small daughters at the time. So, going back into the school force was the right thing to do. But, it wasn't if I had no clear direction. Can you believe I went to school and took journalism courses knowing doggone well I did not want to be in that field? 
 I truly wanted a better life for my babies, but in reality, I was just picking a field and running with it. #bigmistake 

It is almost embarrassing for me to admit I spent years coasting and not getting anywhere in life. But, that's my story, and I accept full responsibility for my life's choices. Oh, I did find my real passion years later, so stay tuned.
 Besides, I may have quit college, but I still have a few more chances to help my kids get on and stay on track.
Image: Tangie Bell and daughter sitting down talking about college stuff over starbucks coffee and filing paper work for school

 After going around visiting all of the spots and chatting with Kamoriae, I thought it was time to share a few things with her. Not that she wasn't there through our family struggles. My talk is only to remind her not to take the struggle route. It's long, and you will keep crossing the wrong road until you accept and take the path less traveled.
First of all, know what you want to become in real life. Do not choose or do what I want or what the internet says you should do. If the choice and love for your craft are not rooted in your soul. #youwillfail
Ouch! That is hard to swallow, but the truth hurts.
When I look back over my life, I wish I would have done what I was born to do.
I am a licensed hairstylist, and I knew as a kid. Why did I go in another direction? From the time I could walk, I styled my dolls' hair. By the time I was a teenager, I was doing my hair, my grannies hair, and anybody who would let me get close tho their scalps. 

Image: Tangie Bell and daughter touring the cafe and coffee houses on campus
 Lord knows I wasted a lot of time, I possibly could have broken generational poverty in my life decades ago. But, that is another topic for another day of babbling. Just note that I finally made it up and out to do a little something with myself. Now, I want to see my daughters do better than me.
Image: Tangie Bell enjoying a quick nap at the school campus nap pod
 I am happy to say Kamoriae is working toward becoming a Physical Therapist. And as her mother, I couldn't be more happy for her. She did her first two years in a local community college in our city. Now she just transitions to the higher courses at a Univesity. These last few years she has not waivered on her dreams. My daughter held a 3.9 GPA and was given a full scholarship to continue her education. I feel as though this is my accomplishment because I get to enjoy this journey with my girls. 
 I want her and anyone to know these are the best years. But these are the hardest to stay on top of things. It will get hard, but the pay off is worth it. Things have changed since my day of being school. 
Most schools have coffee houses and places to get a nap when tired. There is no reason not to take advantage of the great opportunities college has to offer. Be advised to always look for quiet places to study. I was a busy body, so I was lured toward what's happening on campus instead of doing my homework.
Image: Sofa with pillows in the students rooms to enjoy

Image: Colorful chairs for students to enjoy at Texas Women's Univesity
Most schools have coffee houses and places to get a nap when tired. There is no reason not to take advantage of the great opportunities college has to offer. Be advised to always look for quiet places to study. I was a busy body, so I was lured toward what's happening on campus instead of doing my homework.
Image: Chemistry book at school bookstore
 To do better, a person has to want better in life. There are no easy courses in school. So, if you don't understand something, ask for help quickly. No one will help if you never ask. #teachersdontreadminds
Image: School books at campus for students to checkout.
 I may not know much about math, reading, and writing, but I am also here as your mom to help.
A few other things I shared with my little young adult.
Image: tangie Bell and daughter Kamoriae leaving the campus after enjoying a full tour before starting Texas Womens University
  1. Eat a well-balanced meal. Too much snacking and hanging at the coffee house will make you feel sluggish.
  2. You may be shy but try to make a few new friends.
  3. Take advantage of school activities. It will help keep social skills up. You will need to know how to interact with others when in the workforce.
  4. Change course if you need too. But do not wait too long to do it. Your #timeisvaluable
  5. You are not bound by your past or where you come from. You hold the keys to destiny and your future. #notme I'm just your mom. 

Image: Sign at Texas Women's University that says have a lit semester. Picture taken by Tangie Bell. Seen first On Bits and Babbles blog
No matter what life is too short not to enjoy the best year of college, so stay active and have a lit semester. 

In conclusion:  I wish I could have taken a shorter route to become the woman I am now. But, I did not do that. And I finally ok with it because I am living in my truth. Times were different in my day. If only I could have seen my future then. But, honestly, I am glad I couldn't because I may detour the blessings that I have now. #mykids
 There you have it, my purpose has been re-routed for me. #thankful

P.S. If I had the chance to attend college, honest, I still would not go.Because my destiny has always been to become a hairdresser. I would definitely hands down, go to the nearest beauty school.
 So, I may have quit college, but I didn't fail at life. #stylistforlife

That's my story, and I am sticking to it!

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Until Next Time See Ya In A Bit!

xo Tangie

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  1. You and your daughter are both beautiful. I hope she has a very successful year at college and many more after that!


  3. We have actually learned sooo much from you and we chose better life paths because you always encouraged us to do so!!! We are soooo grateful for everything you have taught us!! Love you!


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