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The Joyful List + My Take On Living Life And Finding Joy

Image: Tangie and Daughter Moriah making cookies and ice-icecream.
The Joyful List + My Take On Living Life And Finding Joy

Image: Tangie and Daughter Moriah making cookies and ice-icecream.

 Oh, how I wish life were all about eating sprinkled cookies and ice cream.  Honestly,  life is so beautiful when I can inspire someone else to be great in their life. But, it's even better when I can learn from my own chaotic mess. Over the last few weeks, I have shared with you guys my struggles and my regrets to things I didn't teach my daughters. 
 I received a lot of love back from you guys, and some of your messages got me to thinking about some of your questions. 
Image: Tangie Bell and Daughter Moriah making cookies to share on blog . The joyful list
I will not share any names because most were asked in private. To be fair, I am not the best person to ask about living life nor finding joy. I am a work in progress.

But, since I have been asked countless times, I think I can now share my two cents on the blog.
Image: Tangie Bell and Daughter Moriah decorating cookies. For the joyful list on Bits and babbles
Back in the day when I was living life wild and running the streets. I thought living in a big white house with a picket fence would be the answer to all my life's troubles. 
Never did I realize living in a shelter is where I actually learned how to love me right where I was.
In other words, what looks pretty and colorful is not where I really wanted to be. I had to learn to love where I was at that time in life. There were no short cuts for me in life, the struggle was real. 

 Most, people, including myself, don't have it all together. I spent a lot of years always wanting more. 
I was never satisfied with me, myself and I. Long story short, when I got my cosmetology license, I wanted to own a salon. My husband and I bought a house in our hometown, then I tried to move to another state. Even as a kid, I was always grasping for something else in my life. 

The Joyful List + My Take On Living Life And Finding Joy
Truth be told I never stopped long enough to enjoy the small moments and blessing that were happening for me. This is a hard pill to swallow and even harder to publicly admit. 

To make a long story short, I was in my middle years of aging when I realized I was missing out on living a good life.
No matter how we all watch the clock, the seconds, minutes, and hours will change. 
These days the clock on the wall is moving faster than Superman chasing a speeding bullet.

The Joyful List + My Take On Living Life And Finding Joy
So, my take on living life and finding joy is to stop drop, pay attention, and start living. #igotitnow
I believe a lot of my anxiety stemmed from my childhood into my adulthood. Because I was always looking for a way out of something. 
I have never really taken the time to enjoy the small things in life until now.
The Joyful List + My Take On Living Life And Finding Joy

When I share snippets from the Joyful list, it is my real deal, Holyfield. 
No matter how my pictures look online, I fight every day to be still and live a fulfilled life that will allow me to age gracefully and happily.

Last but not least, no one is passing out happy and joyous pills. I learned a long time ago, the life I want to live, I have to create it myself. 
I would rather live on the streets than be somewhere and not be happy. And, I am not kidding at all.

I do not struggle in my life as I did in my past. You can put me in a hut now, and I will keep it clean and be just as happy.

That truth for me was hard to swallow, but a lot of people are not enjoying life while not having much.

Joy, to me, is when I can be at peace where ever I am at that moment.

And there are no straight lines and curves to living and finding joy. My aha moment may be different from yours.
 But all of us will have those moments where our inner peace, love, and happiness will become center stage once we make it the main priority. No joke! 

At the end of the day, I am taking my midlife days slow and easy.

I do not have it all together, so take my story and information as inspiration only. I am not a dr nor someone who can diagnose and prevent sadness. This is my story, and I am sticking to it. #sendmehugs

In conclusion, I am going to tell Ya'll about all the things that bought me joy this week.
  • Rico and I spent our two days off work together at home doing nothing.
  • I turned the phones off so we couldn't be disturbed. No, we both needed rest, and I was determined we were going to get it by any means necessary.
  • We watched the Peanuts movie with our two youngest daughters, and it was quite interesting. 
  • Baked cookies with Moriah. I must admit I ate 4 with the sprinkles. Because ya girl ain't on no diet. #sorrynotsorry
  • I bought myself a new pair of shoes that I've hidden in my closet. I like to surprise my hubby with my purchases at a later date. Lol :)
  • This week has been all about family. We made tacos and laughed all night in the kitchen.
  • I had a chance to sit down and talk to each of my daughters about their future plans. 
  • I cleared and decluttered everything that was weighing me down.
  • I cleaned out my e-mails and got rid of old songs and spam. That was long overdue.
  • Last, but not least, I moved everything that is or was trying to stop my success. It is vital to my mental health to let go of any baggage that may be slowing down the next chess move. 

Some people need to start some stuff over, but that's another post at another time. 
To some people, my joy list may be lame, but honey, I have fought hard to live life and enjoy my little milestone.

Lastly, my perspective on life is not better than yours, but once I found my stitch in life. I realize I can not be stopped because I am the captain of my Joyful ship.

How are you enjoying life at this moment in time?

Until Next Time See Ya In A Bit!
xo Tangie

P.S. Do not ask for permission to live your life in peace, love, and happiness. Start over as many times as you need too. The race is not given to the swift, but to the one who endureth.

Thank you for joining me...Have a blessed weekend:)


  1. Teasing someone isn't nice lol That ICE CREAM looks so delicious!! I am literally drooling at the moment

  2. Aint nothing wrong with starting over!!!! Also, happiness is what makes the world go round and I love doing what makes me happy!

  3. It's important to document every memory.You set a good example for us young woman


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