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Finally! Tangie Bell pages from her Midlife Notes.
No need to throw a stone. No need to catch a stone. Sometimes we just have to watch a few beautiful rocks by the seaside, the shore and by the street corners. Today I must admit I have finally got it, and it all makes sense now. When I was younger,


 I thought I knew it all; in fact, I couldn't wait to be all grown up.
Not realizing I knew nothing, and it would take a lifetime to learn just one important thing. But, what is important to one person may not be important to another person. Nonetheless, the lessons in life will be the same, good or bad but each one of us must learn from whatever comes our way.
Being in isolation has taught me three valuable things, and I had to write them down in my midlife notes. 
So, let's jump right on into today's blog post, shall we?
Finally! Midlife Notes
One thing I've learned is to listen to my own voice: So many times, I have missed opportunities in life because I had to ask three people what they think. I wanted to know should I do this or should I do that. Not realizing I am only asking them because that is what I wanted to do. But by the time I have asked everybody else, I forgot what I really wanted to do. Over the last few weeks, I have been making plans to do something that will possibly surprise me. I am finally listening to my heart and my own dreams of becoming who I am destined to become. I know along this journey, it may not make sense to some, so it is best I work out all the kinks before sharing or asking for inputs. Who knew that being 40-something, I would just be learning how to listen to the positive voices in my own head. Yep, go figure that one out. :)
Finally! Midlife Notes Bits and Babbles

Another thing I have just caught grasp is learning to breathe. Rome wasn't built in a day, so why am I trying to intake everything life is throwing my way. Being in isolation has caused me to stop and breathe in the fresh air. I know that may sound mundane but keep reading it will soon make more sense. For years I have been working yet not taking the proper time out for the important things.

I wish I could take a vacation every weekend with my family, but I know that is not reality. Besides, our schedules as a family always conflict somehow. When I am off, Rico (the hubs) has to work and vise versa. But this year we sat down and wrote in a few mini in and out of town vacations. I want to take a lot of mini-trips that only cost a few bucks to do and enjoy. I know you are wondering how that will be done, but it only takes making time, a little patience, and planning. No matter how long it takes, I will be sitting by a shore, inhaling fresh air and breathing in the calmness of the free world. Life is what I make of it, and I have finally gotten that imprinted onto my heart.
Finally, I have learned how to navigate my very own space on the web. I am a late bloomer when it came to navigating social media and my journaling blog. It took me forever to tell my bits and babble the way I want to. I had to realize I do not fit the mold of everyone else. And my thoughts of rambles may not be everyone's jam, but I love babbling; therefore, I will continue as long as I have a voice. I used to stop and start over when I hit a hiccup, but now I have learned to keep going and love the process of it all. Yes, being social savvy is hard work, and it takes a long time to find your own personal voice. Once I learned that I like sharing things like my style, food, city travel, and making jewelry, I have been hitting the floor posting and running ever since. I won't share and spread more joy now than in years to past.

Being in isolation has slowed me down a little bit because I genuinely had to switch gears. But, I never stop posting on my blog and a few of my other social media outlets. I may not be young, but I am going to hang in the social media arena as long as I can. Because I really do have things to share and say. And I think people like that I am open and transparent to being 40-something and living life to the fullest.

Lastly, I believe in myself after 40-something years. I remember when I first started writing on my blog, Bits, and Babbles. I wanted everyone to know and come read it because I was so excited. I told all my family and friends because I knew they were my biggest cheerleaders. I even sent the links to each and everyone I knew from my past. I would share on my personal Facebook pages, but I got no likes or love. The minute I post a silly photo of eating syrup running down my face or playing with my kids 100 likes. I'm not even joking one bit. 

Then one day, I went to a seminar for bloggers, and what I learned changed my life forever. When you first open a business or blog, do not tell loved ones first. They are family and nothing else, they are not your loyal readers, and they do not have to support your dream. WOW such a slap in the face and hard pill to follow, but it is true.
Once I stopped talking about my adventures in life with family and friends, it was then, and only then, I was able to write on my blog even if no one I knew would ever read one post.

Side Note: You do not need a crowd to believe in YOU: You just have to believe in YOURSELF! 

It took me way too long to catch that and live by that phrase for myself.

BELIEVE IN YOU!

In conclusion: To be honest, I do not know it all, but I do know I want to live a life that is filled with intentional living. It's not always possible to be happy all the time, but it is possible to be happy most of the time. And I think I have finally gotten that etched in my mind and heart. I finally got it, and being in isolation has really opened my eyes to wanting more and more out of life. I am going to learn something new and try something else challenging this year. My goal is to push myself passed my unknown limits. And I am encouraging each one of you to step up and step out of your comfort zone and finally do something a little different. Do not wait until you get my age before you finally get to living. Those are my bits and babbles for today. 

Until Next Time See Ya In A Bit!
xo Tangie









6 comments

  1. aww!! I am sooo glad that you believe in yourself and we believe in you 100%!!!! We love you!

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    1. I know love you back...Thanks Carey!
      xo Tangie

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  2. This was very touching and opened my eyes to whats been slipping through the cracks in my life as well. Continue to strive to be better and motivate. Because you definitely are a IT Girl

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    1. Good morning and thank you so much for commenting. Have a great weekend!
      xo Tangie

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  3. Such a wonderful post where you got candid and vulnerable. Its a rarity these days LOVE YOU

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    1. Yes and I agree with you...thanks for stopping by and thanks for commenting!
      xo Tangie

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